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MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS

So I was having a conversation with a client and she mentioned she was angry. Then she goes on to further say…You can’t help me with me with everything. So I explained to her that she can’t tell another what they are not capable of doing or not doing, in reference to helying her. I then suggested that she share her concerns. As she shared, i actively listened to understand the hidden hurt.

 

Many times we find ourselves dismissing alternative solutions that we never tried and/or don’t now if it can actually work. Which bring me to my first point:

*Try something new- keyword “try” it doesn’t hurt to try…trying helping you learn what you are capable of accomplishing. And another thing to note is just because you tried it once before and it didn’t work doesn’t mean you will get the same result….the knowledge gained between the first time and the second is greater, which puts you at a better chance of accomplishing “it”

 

My client was saying “oh this would not work” but when I asked her if she tried it the anewer was no.

 

*Ask Yourself- ask yourself in what ways will this anger benefit me, or my family or my closest friends. No benefits = no time of my day. Remember as mother we are the ones holding down our fort and we need energy to that.

 

*Take a Step…Take a Breath- how do they say it….WOO -SAH and realize what is trying to anger you is really trying to rob you of life. Reverse those emotions by understanding 1. Life happen whether it’s on your terms or not, which mean you have to accept the good as well as the bad (not allow the bad to overtake you)  2. Focus on the big picture (i.e. that may be your child, your new job, your peace of mind and body)

 

*Reach Out- to someone, to your God, to your support group…such avenues have the ability to help you see through a different lens and to uplift you.

 

In managing our (I’m not exempt) emotions we must incorporate positivity to help bring us through the rough moments. I’ve learned to keep pushing, pass the hurt, because there’s a bigger goal…a bigger goal than the moment I am in. I’ve also learned “what affects me, affects my child”, so straighten up is what I would tell myself (positive self-talk goes a long way).

 

 

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KEEPING IT POSITIVE

Many times as a single mother, we encounter so many things and the inside of us are crying out for help. Many times we long for someone to just recognize all that we do then say “I see your efforts…. keep up the awesome work or at least offer to sit with the kids while we relax. You are not alone so many single mothers go through this everyday, but we must realize the God knows our struggle and has great plans for our lives. It is easy to focus on the negative, but how about switching that focus to positive. I often find myself thanking God for the awesome hurdles He has seen me through because it was only by His grace that I made it.

 

Know that it is ok and that I understand. Also understand that things and situations could be worst off. A couple of years ago, we I seen my physician, they explain to me the issue and what it could’ve been….from that day I made a conscience decision to change my actions to ensure life afterwards would be much better off. As I drove home, God began to talk to me, letting me know things could have been worst. I thanked Him because the issue was caught before it developed to a persistent disease and for Him caring for me when I wasn’t thinking the right way.

 

Another way we have to keep life positive is by being content where we are and having faith that greater is in store for you and your child. God wants us to believe in Him that He will carry out every promise made to us. Just think…..research says “we must drink nine cups of water a day”. This seems simple but it goes to show you that even though we don’t get that amount God is continuously keeping us…in spite of. .

 

In summation, keep your thoughts positive, have faith and know your best has yet to come. God sees your struggle and will bless you accordingly. Prayer helps and allows God to know your struggle, meditation and yoga are awesome. Take that time to yourself and enjoy it. Remember, remember KEEP IT POSITIVE!

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 STRIKING THAT BALANCE

So I’m sitting here, browsing the net when my daughter tell me about school and her friends. And I listen, then she becomes emotional about the recent change of school. As she explains, my heart began to ache. Ache because I’m wondering am i missing something. When she comes out of school she smiling from ear to ear, but right now her heart is speaking….

 

As single mothers, we have to create that balance between work, life, the kids and ourself. We must also make sure the choice we make is one of the best for our situation. Never is this choice easy, but when you invite God into your areanas of life, He will fix it the way you need it to be.

 

1. Prayer

Start by taking time out to pray to God, making it known your need of Him. Our Lord love to hear from us and is waiting to lift our heavy burdens. He will help us prioritize all that we juggle with. This step is important because “seeking His kingdom first”, He then adds all other things.

 

2. Faith

The bible tells us to have faith the size of a mustard seed. It also tells us that it is impossible to move God without faith. Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. God wil transform your life, just believe!

 

Let’s all commit to taking time out to strike the balance we and our kids need. Lets take time to listen and recognize the signs they are sending out. Our children grow rapidly so we need to cherish the precious moment while we have the chance.

 

ASM understands and want to reach out to all single mothers young and older to support them in their motherhood. If you know a single mother, be a blessing and share our blog info. We are here to uplift and strength because we know how it can be.

 

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-ambitioussinglemothers.wordpress.com

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-Email: ambitioussinglemothers@gmail.com

 

When we pull together and work together we can make things happen! Until next time stay inspired.

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IT CAN BE USEFUL

Have you ever found yourself needing a resource (of any kind) that wasn’t readily available to you? Resources such as childcare, summer care, discount amusement park tickets, rental or housing needs. Whatsoever the resource was or is…it just wasn’t available to you when you needed it…

 

Here at ASM we have learned a lot through the stages of motherhood and we still are learning as time goes on. In our learning, we grasped to never let anything slip away from you. This means grabbing any and all written literature, brochures and or flyer. Many times we may pass by certain information because we believe we don’t need it, but in actuality it can be useful later on. These resources can be found in libraries, grocery receipts, childcare center, newspaper and even your child/ren school. These printed resources can help you research & locate ideas and point you in the direction of things you are looking for. It is also sometimes helpful to ask the parents within the facility your child attends; they too may have vital information. We also find it helpful to have on a listening ear at all times because people can bring about information and resources as they talk near and around you, such as the radio. You are encouraged to utilize all the tools you have, to obtain everything you may need. Most times things can be used, it will inquire your creative mind which will make things work for you when others don’t see it your way.

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REDUCING THE STRESS

Have you ever found yourself needing a resource (of any kind) that wasn’t readily available to you? Resources such as childcare, summer care, discount amusement park tickets, rental or housing needs. Whatsoever the resource was or is…it just wasn’t available to you when you needed it…

 

Here at ASM we have learned a lot through the stages of motherhood and we still are learning as time goes on. In our learning, we grasped to never let anything slip away from you. This means grabbing any and all written literature, brochures and or flyer. Many times we may pass by certain information because we believe we don’t need it, but in actuality it can be useful later on. These resources can be found in libraries, grocery receipts, childcare center, newspaper and even your child/ren school. These printed resources can help you research & locate ideas and point you in the direction of things you are looking for. It is also sometimes helpful to ask the parents within the facility your child attends; they too may have vital information. We also find it helpful to have on a listening ear at all times because people can bring about information and resources as they talk near and around you, such as the radio. You are encouraged to utilize all the tools you have, to obtain everything you may need. Most times things can be used, it will inquire your creative mind which will make things work for you when others don’t see it your way.

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A HEALTHIER YOU…A HEALTHIER CHILD

Ways to make you healthier:

 

1.) Eating Healthier

Portion control is one great way to help you remain and stay healthy. This can be done by:

a. Assessing the correct portion size verses serving size of the foods you eat

b. Don’t skip meal- try small energy boosting meal between breakfast and lunch and lunch and dinner.

c. Measuring and weighing

d. Try portion controlled plates

Eating healthy can lead to a more fulfilled life. Fulfilled in the sense of knowing you are taking care of your body and providing it with the necessary nutrients it needs.

 

2.) Exercise

Research recommends exercising daily. Results prove that exercise:

a. Improves your mood

b. Helps manage weight gain

c. Boost energy

d. Combats health diseases and complications and

e. It can be fun

Exercise can reap awesome benefits, as we noted from the list above. I agree personally with the list because I’ve experience it daily. My exercise routine is vigorous and afterwards I feel drained, but once I shower and prepare for my day, I feel on top of the world, confident in my ability to conquer life. Posing in every mirror or window I passed ;-). When you can take part in looking beautiful, and knowing you are decreasing your chances of getting any family medical issues will cause you to see exercise in a different light. Following a healthy routine can make you feel good inside and out.

 

3.) Connect Socially

As humans, we are social beings which are evident through our memberships in various organizations, ability to form families and create that circle of friends. Having these connections helps a person feel that sense of belonging. Most people, at some point in their life, desire a relationship with someone whom they can relate, share and bond with. ASM provides that channel where friendship can form and bonds are made. If you ever feel disconnected or you long for a person to chat with ASM is here to help.

 

Not only can committing to a healthier “U”……your child/ren can benefits from your live style. Children come into the world as clean slates wanting to be filled. It is our job as “Ambitious” mothers to go above and beyond to ensure they receive the proper information and instructions. It begins with recognizing God has chosen to entrust you with a precious life, and then ensuring they see you as positive role model in their life. Just when we think our children doesn’t take notice, Oh believe me…..they have the whole script programmed. With that said let’s create within our children and selves a healthy lifestyle routine. “It can be done and we can do it”!

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