Sitting here thinking of my role as a mother and the role of many other single mothers. We do a lot and many times we dont get the appreciation we so desire. Instead we recieve the opposite attention of our efforts. Well today I am doing something different than the usual…..pointing out some of the wonderful aspects and efforts us mothers engage in.
We accepted our responsibility as we endured the labor pains to bring our child/ren here
We put forth effort to care for our children despite other overwhelming pressures
We get up everyday to work to sure our child has their needs
We ensure our child/ren have three course meals
We endure work pressures because we have a human depending on us
We help with homework after a long day of work and/or school
We take off work and stay up late hours when our child is sick
We seek out assistance and resources to help us in trying times when we dont have it. We attend to our child/ren emotional needs. We ensure food the kids have food even if we have to starve. We skip the excuses and get it (whatever your it may be) done.
We deserve the credit plus a spa day ;-)…..
I know I didn’t list it all, single mother community help me out. Comment with your experience, it your time to say it loud and proud.
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So I was having a conversation with a client and she mentioned she was angry. Then she goes on to further say…You can’t help me with me with everything. So I explained to her that she can’t tell another what they are not capable of doing or not doing, in reference to helying her. I then suggested that she share her concerns. As she shared, i actively listened to understand the hidden hurt.
Many times we find ourselves dismissing alternative solutions that we never tried and/or don’t now if it can actually work. Which bring me to my first point:
*Try something new- keyword “try” it doesn’t hurt to try…trying helping you learn what you are capable of accomplishing. And another thing to note is just because you tried it once before and it didn’t work doesn’t mean you will get the same result….the knowledge gained between the first time and the second is greater, which puts you at a better chance of accomplishing “it”
My client was saying “oh this would not work” but when I asked her if she tried it the anewer was no.
*Ask Yourself- ask yourself in what ways will this anger benefit me, or my family or my closest friends. No benefits = no time of my day. Remember as mother we are the ones holding down our fort and we need energy to that.
*Take a Step…Take a Breath- how do they say it….WOO -SAH and realize what is trying to anger you is really trying to rob you of life. Reverse those emotions by understanding 1. Life happen whether it’s on your terms or not, which mean you have to accept the good as well as the bad (not allow the bad to overtake you) 2. Focus on the big picture (i.e. that may be your child, your new job, your peace of mind and body)
*Reach Out- to someone, to your God, to your support group…such avenues have the ability to help you see through a different lens and to uplift you.
In managing our (I’m not exempt) emotions we must incorporate positivity to help bring us through the rough moments. I’ve learned to keep pushing, pass the hurt, because there’s a bigger goal…a bigger goal than the moment I am in. I’ve also learned “what affects me, affects my child”, so straighten up is what I would tell myself (positive self-talk goes a long way).
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So i have been thinking about single motherhood and everything that comes along with it. From not having the support needed to wishing we didn’t have to leave our little one to work. Yeah, work is needed but if we had it our way, some of us would prefer working from home or even the ability to take our child along to work. When we speak of a lack of support, the range is different for each of us. One may face not being able to earn extra cash because there’s no one to pick up or watch their child for that time. Any who, we all could probably list a million and one “not so right” things in our life but let’s take a time out from that. After all our children are watching how we handle situations and problems…let them view something different.
So although things are not like we desire, we must adjust the lens a bit and actually take notice of things we are over looking that is not so bad:
1. Kid/s are doing exceptionally well in school
2. You are working
3. You are going to school
4. You are looking for better opportunities for you and the family
5. You have chose to accept the job until something better comes along
6. We are making certain our child/ren has a meal to eat every day and throughout the day
7. YOU DID NOT GIVE UP BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALONE****(ASM give u 5 stars)
Small or big, we have to appreciate our journey and efforts. God puts no more on us than we can bear, so know if you have it on you, God knew you could handle it!
I’m personally grateful I am able to see my child off to school and pick her up from school everyday. I’m grateful she is happy at her new school and making friends. Most of all I’m grateful because EVERYDAY I pick her up she has the biggest smile on her face! That lights up my heart.
Share with us your joys of motherhood single and how you are grateful, we will love to hear from you.